The Deadly Anticipation to Travel Syndrome

Anxiety Shortens Life

by Michael Tieso on March 29, 2011

in Featured,Motivation,Tips / Planning

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Well, not exactly deadly. Everyone who has prepared for a long trip has had this syndrome. Luckily treatable once you’ve left but the anticipation to travel can really get into our heads. This is the process of how this syndrome starts after you’ve made the decision to travel for a long period of time.

The first symptom is laziness. If you’re quitting your job to travel, you’ll find yourself doing less and less work each day that passes. Projects that are due after the day you leave are never started. It becomes worse as your boss asks you to make a yearly plan of what you’ll accomplish in the office. You hate having to lie but giving notice too early is not a good idea. Nobody can know and you feel like you have this hidden dark secret inside of you.

Every thought revolves around that day. You have multiple countdown clocks. Your desktop has a huge countdown timer and there’s a huge circle around that day in your house and at work. You start crossing off each day on the calendar, ripping pages off of anything existing after that day. If you’re leaving in May, nothing past that month exist in your calendar.

357 of 365: Crossing Off The Days by lism., on Flickr

357 of 365: Crossing Off The Days by lism., on Flickr

The only thing you can talk about is the preparation. Your friends are excited for you but think you’re crazy for leaving for so long. You think they’re crazy for not leaving. You find out it’s not contagious.

Family is half supportive and half not. One half thinks you’re getting it out of your system and the other half thinks you’re screwing with your future. You never how to answer “What are you going to do when you come back.” They’re not happy with “I don’t know.” This gives you more motivation to travel. You understand their concern but you’re convinced to travel.

You’ve researched countless hours. You know all the popular travel blogs. You close your eyes and imagine yourself in these destinations. Even in your sleep, you dream about it. Nothing else is on your mind but this trip you’re about to make. Wikitravel becomes your homepage.

Sacrifices are made to make this trip possible. There’s no backing out because you’ve already annoyed your entire group of friends and family that you were leaving. That’s when you realize you need more money. So you start to sell things and save money as if it were to save your own life. You bring your own lunch to work and skip going out often. Perhaps you’ve made bigger sacrifices such as selling your car or furniture. In that case, you’re full on thought of as a crazy person by everyone else. You’re okay with it.

10 Year Old Backpacking

My brother stealing my backpack to go travel the world

With only a few weeks to go, you did it. Suddenly, everyone is supportive. Although everyone still thinks you’re crazy, they add that extra line that makes you smile – “You’re so lucky, I wish I could do that.”

Now that your job knows, laziness is at full force and the partying begins. For the weeks that follow till you leave, you’re meeting with family and friends for that last drink before you leave.

One or two weeks left and you’re nervous. At least one thing goes wrong that rushes you from place to place. In fact, everything is making you nervous. You want to leave. After months or years of preparation, it’s really starting to annoy you.

Then you’re at the airport waving good bye to your family. Emotions rush and you’re hoping you’ve made the right choice.

You arrive at your destination with a sigh of relief. You’re now treated – at least for now.

  • http://twenty-somethingtravel.com Stephanie

    It’s funny, all of that exciting yet miserable build-up and once you start travelling it’s as if it never happened. That part of my life seems very far away now.

  • http://www.hecktictravels.com Peter Heck

    That one line: “You’re so lucky, I wish I could do that” doesn’t make me smile – it makes me angry! Luck has nothing to do with it! Anyone can do it!

    At least now it does. At first it used to make me smile and now it just annoys me. :)

    • http://artofbackpacking.com Michael

      The smile is there because I felt no one believed that I was really going to do it. I was the crazy one and yet in the end I was told they had wished they could do the same. It sounded contradicting.

  • http://twitter.com/marksmayo Mark Mayo

    Agree with Peter – that line is starting to grate with me – and it makes me want to explain to them that they can do it too…sadly that doesn’t usually go down well. Some people seem as though they don’t want to know that it’s possible. Ah well.
    And the ‘what are you going to do afterwards?’ – just wow, the variety of responses I get to ‘no idea’, the looks of horror or confusion, to an answer that I myself am totally comfortable with!
    Great post, looking forward to more :)

    • http://artofbackpacking.com Michael

      It does get annoying. We’ve all heard it many times. The sacrificing I’ve made to make it possible was tough work and that’s what annoys me when I hear it because it took a whole lot out of me. Luck was on my side for sure during some moments but most of it was because that’s what I wanted.
      Thanks so much for the comment!

  • Anonymous

    Great post Michael! Putting it on my calendar just isn’t enough self-torture…

    …Starting a site fully focused on the bloody clock and writing frequently about it is way more narcissistic for the soul :P

    • http://artofbackpacking.com Michael

      Haha I was thinking of adding the creation of a blog but I realized not everyone creates a blog before they travel. It does add an extra intensive impatience having one though.

  • http://www.nodtostyle.blogspot.com NodToStyle

    YES.

  • http://www.totaltravelbug.com TotalTravelBug

    I remember this feeling! It was horrible at the time. I just wanted time to hurry the hell up so I could leave. I actually got fed up with being excited and just wanted to go! Enjoy that excitement while you can though. I’ve just returned home and have the opposite feeling. It isn’t good!

    • http://artofbackpacking.com Michael

      Hmm maybe I’ll write a reverse post. Thanks for the comment!

  • Garreth Lodge

    This is SO true Mike. I’m definitely going through the laziness stage right now with course assignments and working. Just want the next three months to pass so quickly so I can be cured! haha

    Great post.

    • http://artofbackpacking.com Michael

      I had to change curable to treatable because I realized it can never be cured. :) Thanks for the comment!

  • http://www.travelnlass.com/ TravelnLass

    Spot on Michael! I’ve got 6 months now (and of course the requisite “countdown” clock on my blog) til I move to Southeast Asia (for… who knows?) and…

    To tell the truth, I’m a tad sick of talking about it. My friends are all “You’re so lucky” (NOT! I say) which is annoying, else “Are you NUTS?” (equally exasperating), else (my personal favorite) “But… WHY???”. Which of course doesn’t even deserve an answer.

    In short, I just want it to be October 1st already! Well o.k. that and… all this #%@&! “stuff” to miraculously be packed up, sold or plopped in a dumster! ;)

    • http://artofbackpacking.com Michael

      Ah, I know that feeling all so well. The questions are indeed annoying.

  • http://twitter.com/wnderlustprojct Sheryll

    yesssss!!!! August can’t come fast enough! Love this.

  • http://aliadventures.com Ali

    I can so totally relate to this! I understand that burden of hiding a deep dark secret. Not only am I hiding my future travel plans from work, but I’m also hiding my relationship because there’s no way to tell them about him without questions about the fact that he lives in Germany. I’m not only counting down the days until my trip, but the days until my move, and the days until I can finally tell work. Can’t come soon enough. But it’ll all be worth the frustration in the end.

    • http://artofbackpacking.com Michael

      Ah that must be rough. You must be so excited to see him again. I know how annoying those Skype calls can get when you just want to be there in person. Your Twitter love story is really cute.

  • Anonymous

    Michael… glad to know my wife and I aren’t the only ones who have experienced this! We’re still 9 months away from our grand adventure and it is agonizing. The only thing keeping us sane is writing about our plans. Glad to see people can survive the deadly anticipation to travel syndrome!

  • http://www.donteverlookback.com Amy & Kieron

    We’ve got 4 months to go and the symptoms are striking us hard!

    Can’t wait to get our fix!

  • http://odysseusdrifts.blogspot.com/ Odysseus

    Love this! It’s so true, even though I still have a bit over 4 months to go. I’ve also reached reached the “Argh! Must save more money! Eat cup ramen every day for the next few months. Argh!”

    • http://artofbackpacking.com Michael

      Haha well I found that no matter how much money I saved, it was never enough. So no worries.

  • http://www.bigquestionmarks.blogspot.com/ bigquestionmarks

    Loving this post – having just gone through all of this for a second time, it was the same all over again! I agree with TotalTravelBug- just enjoy the excitement while it lasts. :)

    • http://artofbackpacking.com Michael

      That’s why this is only treatable and not curable. :)

  • http://twitter.com/BAbackpacker Breakaway Backpacker

    WOW YOU PUT IT ALL IN WORDS… THAT IS EXACTLY HOW IT IS!!! I couldn’t stop laughing as I read this because I went through all of that and am now living it!!! Ahhhh for everyone out there planning a trip EVERY sacrifice is worth it!!!

  • http://www.footprintsofabackpacker.com Sarah

    “Your friends are excited for you but think you’re crazy for leaving for so long. You think they’re crazy for not leaving. ”

    This is sooo true! I have to keep avoiding putting my foot in it with thinly veiled “what I’m doing is awesome, why are you content to stick around here?” type conversation.

    I find it’s getting harder the closer to the leaving date I get. Work is rubbish and even my boss said to me yesterday “If I were you, I would have stopped worrying about it all ages ago!”

    33 days to go!

    • http://artofbackpacking.com Michael

      Yeah, that conversation gets old. Goes in one ear and out the other with them.

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  • http://artofbackpacking.com AOBteresa

    It’s almost hard to look back at the days where it seemed so far away… when the idea felt like a dream that could not come true. All of us are truly lucky and fortunate for our travel experiences. Well said Tieso :)

  • Anonymous

    8 days left! 8 days left! Today is my last day at work, for the 3rd time. Unfortunately for me, I haven’t had the chance to slack off. I get paid REALLY well to work hard :-0 …so I feel obligated to put every effort in possible… funny how I say that, and write this comment, from my desk… at work ;-)

    • http://artofbackpacking.com Michael

      Haha, well, at least you get paid well so that’s a good motivation to keep the job so you can raise more money for the trip. Safe travels!

  • http://www.lostaruban.com Nestor

    I have 7 weeks left of this. Plus a wedding in between. Looking forward to going home and get married and the 6 month honeymoon that follows. It is really hard to focus at work.

    • http://artofbackpacking.com Michael

      Sounds like you’re busy for the next 7 weeks!

  • Eka

    totally true..even for my (only) 2 weeks travel every 2 months….especially bout wikitravel become my homepage and of course the laziness…cant focus on anything at work since a month before, hahahah feel so sorry for my patients and only few days I got back home, I already have plans for my travel on the next 2 months!! aaahhhh I’m soooo addicted to travel!

    • http://artofbackpacking.com Michael

      Very exciting :)

  • Joeri

     this article is so recognizable, finally found the proper website with a writer who is like me :) hehe

    • http://artofbackpacking.com AOBteresa

       Glad you enjoyed!

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  • http://www.backpackgek.nl Claudia

    Wow, this is so true. I’m in this phase right now and I absolutely feel everything of the above. Can’t wait to finally leave…

  • Jamie Martin

    You must be reading my mind!  Leaving for China in 2 days and going nuts!!  Travel is very much like a drug!

    • http://artofbackpacking.com Michael

      Safe travels to China! I love it there.

  • Nicole

    This is exactly my life right now!!! Germany in two months!!

  • Arcadia

    pure awesomeness……..  i can’t wait and all the above is true and im not leaving for another year and a half!  i’ve considered leaving next year instead but i want to save money, research, and get a little more experience under my belt so it COULD be easier to get back into it if i so desire upon my return.  i doubt that will be the case but you never know…  glad i found your site.  good stuff.  super stoked!!

  • Anonymous

    This is so true ! I’m 18 and I left England this year for three months to work on a camp in Massachusetts, I’ve never been away from home for that long and I was crazily excited ! Everything you described in this post, happened to me, and now I’m back, I want to do it all again ! 

  • Marcela

     I’m glad this happens to all of us hehe, I’m not the only one who’s a bit nuts!!! I’m leaving in a month to Argentina and Chile..but hear this, I’m seeing my boyfriend too after 8 months. Talk about being nervous huh? :D

  • Guest

    Omg reading this website I’ve just realized that this is the form of life I’ve always wanted! I’m glad I could relize it at such a young age (I’m 17) because I have nothing to give up for this life yet. But there are a lot of doubts in me whether I’m brave enough to choose this path or not. I don’t want to stuck in the average work-home-work lifestyle, actually I’m afraid of it. Ever since listening my parents’ stories as a little child about their travels I’ve been preparing my mind for this lifestyle, I’ve just realized that… I’m very happy I’ve found this site, it proves that there are many people similar to me! All of the articles in the Motivation section show my thoughts, my worries.. 
    That part about friends not understanding this and thinking you’re crazy(and vica versa) can be so true! I mean I’ve never undertsanded why every single people doesn’t want to travel and to get to know other cultures?? (Only sitting next to the hotel’s pool drinking coctails is not travelling in my point of view.)  And now I see that other people don’t understand me either..
    I’m happy for everybody who can go and travel and I really hope I’ll be able to do the same in the future. (I must finish high school at least and some money wouldn’t be useless either.)

    • http://www.artofbackpacking.com Michael

      I’m so glad that this site can provide you with so much motivation.

      Don’t let others put you down on what your dreams are.

  • Sammy

    Haha I read this and this is EXACTLY how it has been the last couple of weeks to now. It’s so funny the switch from people saying “You’re crazy, are you sure you want to do this?” to “Wow I’m so jealous I want to do this.” 
    21 days until I’m off for 9 months, and I’m writing this at work. So yes, laziness is here full force. You nailed it!

    • http://www.artofbackpacking.com Michael

      Have a safe trip!

  • Ruth

    What a great article -  Most of the comments below are from young backpackers – well I had to wait until my kids had left home before I could to a big trip. I was working – I was 46 and my second husband 50+ was very conservative. I told him right from when I met him 10 years before, to look forward to a big trip one day. Then the organising came and I’d just discovered the brilliant concept of couchsurfing – oh yes Old Fogies can do it too. All of those feelings you describe are so right.

    We planned a 6 month trip to Europe, 13 countries and 100 nights free accommodation with a combination of couchsurfing, house swapping, and house sitting – It was brilliant. When we arrived home a little voice from my husband said  “thank you for organising that trip – it was brilliant” – and then when you get home people expect you to be normal and boring! uh no!

    Have we got the bug? too right we have….. but what’s next … we worked in an aboriginal community for 15 months – a life changing experience and now planning another trip looking at being more creative with our free accommodation.

  • Mansi

    Woah!…..this is the same phase m going through!…travel is on my mind 24×7. I think about it all the time…even while being at job. And i feel the same…its like a deep secret and planning going on in my mind all the time. I wish to find some job in which I could travel the world. Any suggestions Michael?